When life feels overwhelming, it’s easy to feel stuck in a cycle of anxiety or disconnection—longing for a deeper sense of peace but unsure how to get there. I’m Hillary Harris, a relationship therapist in Reno dedicated to helping you navigate those difficult moments. My first priority is to create a safe, supportive space where you feel truly seen and understood, providing the foundation you need to move toward the life and relationships that matter most to you.

Healing begins when we understand the patterns that keep us stuck. My work is grounded in attachment-based Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a proven approach for individuals and couples seeking to move past surface-level conflict and toward a secure, lasting connection. Whether you are navigating a painful rift with a partner or looking to find internal safety within yourself, I am here to guide you through the small, meaningful shifts that lead to deep trust and genuine closeness.

How I Can Help

My work is grounded in attachment-based Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a proven approach for healing and strengthening relationships. Whether you’re navigating painful disconnection with a partner or struggling to make sense of your own emotions, I’ll help you identify the patterns that keep you stuck and guide you toward new ways of connecting that feel more supportive and secure. The change often begins with small, meaningful shifts—moments of reaching and responding differently—that open the door to deeper trust and lasting closeness.

My Approach

Specialty Areas:

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): A proven approach to strengthening relationships and resolving conflict.
• Attachment-Based EFT for Individuals (EFIT): Focused on helping you heal and grow as an individual.
• Brainspotting: A powerful, focused treatment method designed to help process trauma and access deep emotional healing.

A strong connection between therapist and client is essential for therapy to work. Learn more about the importance of the therapy working alliance here. Together, we’ll explore the patterns that are keeping you stuck and find ways to create lasting change.

Who I Work With

I’m especially passionate about working with:

• Couples wanting to rebuild connection and trust. Read more about couples therapy here.
• First responders and military personnel navigating high-stress environments.
• Individuals coping with relationship loss or the effects of trauma. Read more about individual therapy here.

I have extensive, past experience as a military spouse with children. This experience has given me insight into the unique challenges faced by people in high-stakes, high-stress roles, and I bring that understanding into my work. Emotionally Focused Therapy is a well-researched model for helping military couples and families. I’ll be happy to talk with you about your specific circumstances and how I can help.

What to Expect

At Individual and Relationship Counseling Associates, we focus on providing compassionate, focused, personalized care. I’m part of a dedicated, collaborative team and regularly consult with our Clinical Director, Cornelius Sheehan, LCSW, to ensure I’m offering the best possible support for my clients.

Session Details

• Fee: $140 per session with a sliding scale.
• Insurance Accepted: Hometown Health Plan
• Ages Served: 18 and older

Hillary’s Areas of Expertise

• Relationship Issues
• Trauma and PTSD
• Veterans
• Addiction
• Anxiety
• Codependency
• Depression
• Divorce
• Family Conflict
• First Responders
• Grief
• Life Transitions
• Marital and Premarital Counseling
• Spirituality
• Stress

More About Hillary

I’m a mom of three teens. When I’m not in the therapy room I’m usually enjoying one of the beautiful outdoor opportunities that are a part of living in Northern Nevada.

Get Started in Therapy with Hillary Harris

I’m here to help you navigate the challenges you’re facing and support your journey toward emotional health and stronger relationships. Let’s work together to help you move forward. Call now, or use our contact form for a free consultation.

Find the Right Connection

Our team at Individual & Relationship Counseling Associates works collaboratively to support the Reno community. While we all have extensive and ongoing training in attachment-based Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, our clinicians provide specialized focus areas to help you find the right fit:

• Gina Bemis: Strengthen your family bond. Gina specializes in EFT-based couple and family support, helping both the unit and the individual grow together.
• Maddie Huntley: Navigate life transitions with confidence. Maddie offers specialized therapy for young adults facing family conflict or the challenges of early adulthood.
• Karen McKinney: Heal from the past. Karen provides compassionate relationship repair for individuals and couples, with a specialized focus on healing from addiction and trauma.
• Sarah Rosenbloom: Support for your growing family. Sarah offers dedicated attachment-based counseling for couples navigating the unique emotional complexities of fertility and pregnancy.
• Amy Aranda: Find your path back to connection. Amy focuses on helping individuals and couples move past “stuck” patterns to build clarity, balance, and security.
• Cornelius Sheehan: Guidance for deep change. As a veteran clinician, Cornelius provides expert care for complex family dynamics and long-term relationship repair, alongside depth-oriented psychotherapy for individuals.

About me as a therapist:

For more than 20 years, I have worked with couples and individuals. I understand how important it is to have a secure, connected, and hopeful relationship. I specialize in attachment-based, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for individuals, marriages, couples, and families in Reno. I am certified as an Emotionally Focused Therapist and Supervisor. I use primarily EFT in my work with couples, individuals, and families. The things I appreciate most about EFT are its effectiveness, research-based approach, and strong theoretical foundation. But EFT is also a client-centered model. A client-centered model of therapy means that the therapist prioritizes the client’s perspective, emotions, and autonomy in the therapeutic process.

A few years ago, I started Individual & Relationship Counseling Associates in Reno, NV. A small, collaborative therapy group dedicated to excellence in attachment-focused therapy.

I have had the privilege of helping hundreds of couples and families repair ruptures and connect again. Along the way, helping at least as many individual clients become more self-aware and accepting. I’ve supported these clients in successfully dealing with depression, anxiety, and relationship problems.

Attachment theory’s empathy, curiosity, and non-judgmental stance align with my natural style. Although I bring expertise in therapy, I see you as the expert on your life and goals. Thus, I commit to approaching our work together with humility and curiosity.

One of my proudest professional achievements is starting a counseling program for inmates at the Washoe County Sheriff’s Office in 2004. We developed a novel and highly successful program to help reduce recidivism, especially for “failure to comply” violations. The program was funded by inmate purchases. I actively participated in these programs until 2011, when I dedicated myself full-time to private practice.

Another accomplishment that has brought me a lot of joy has been mentoring students and interns, guiding them to find their unique paths as professionals in the field of therapy. Additionally rewarding is the work I do helping train and supervise therapists wanting to learn EFT in Reno.

In addition to my work with individuals and couples in therapy, I also co-facilitate Hold Me Tight® couples retreats here in Reno. These retreats offer couples a chance to step away from daily life and focus fully on their relationship. Guided by the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy, the retreats help partners understand the patterns that keep them stuck, learn new ways to communicate, and rediscover a sense of safety and closeness together. Over the years, it’s been incredibly rewarding to witness how these weekends can transform a couple’s connection and inspire hope for lasting change.

About me as a person:

I always remember being profoundly curious about people and relationships. We are all so complex, with so much happening beneath the surface.

I find this complexity fascinating. I feel lucky that my interest has guided me to a profession I love. Moreover, it motivates me to stay current with changes in the field.

My wife Tammy and I live with our three rescue dogs. We have three adult children. Born in San Francisco, I have lived briefly in a few different places, but Reno has always remained home base.

Learn more about therapy in Reno with Cornelius

You can inquire about counseling with Reno therapist Cornelius Sheehan, LCSW and our team of highly-trained EFT therapists here. Call us at 775-235-2205 and we’ll be happy to discuss how we can help. Sessions with Cornelius range from $185 to $210 for 55-min meetings, and $260 for 90-minutes. Insurances accepted include Hometown Health Plan. Two-day weekend intensive sessions are available (call for details).

Cornelius is invested in Reno and Nevada:

Since 1974, I have resided in Reno, deeply committed to this community. I attended Reno High School and UNR. I actively participate in various advisory roles for Reno and the State of Nevada.

Additionally, I founded Relationship Health Counseling Associates to enhance services for clients in this area and provide highest quality professional development for therapist interns in Reno.

Cornelius specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT for couples, individuals and families). He supervisors clinical interns and candidates for EFT Certification. He is the Founder / Director of rceft.org, the Reno/Tahoe Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy. You can learn more about EFT at rceft.org and iceeft.com. ICEEFT is the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

Nevada License Number: 5605-C

Cornelius works with clients aged 18-years and older, and children in the context of family therapy.

Cornelius’s Specialties and Expertise

Top Specialties

• Relationship Issues
• Anxiety
• Depression

Expertise

• Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist
• Divorce
• Family Conflict
• Marital and Premarital
• Cancer
• Grief
• Infidelity
• Internet Addiction
• Lesbian
• Men’s Issues
• Mood Disorders
• Parenting
• Peer Relationships
• Self Esteem
• Veterans