Seeking healing from an affair is a complex and emotionally taxing journey, often serving as a catalyst for couples to seek counseling. The experience of betrayal, particularly through an affair, can deeply shake the foundations of a relationship, leaving individuals feeling a mix of shock, confusion, and a desperate need to find stable ground again. EFT Supervisor Kelly Bourque, LMFT, brings a wealth of knowledge and empathy to this sensitive topic. She shares her extensive experience in helping couples navigate the tumultuous path of healing from an affair, emphasizing the importance of rebuilding trust and fostering a renewed sense of safety in the relationship.
The hosts of That Relationship Show Podcast recently focused on this topic in an episode featuring EFT therapist Kelly Bourque, LMFT. Drawing on Dr. Leanne Campbell’s definition of trauma as “something that would overwhelm anyone’s resources,” they delve into the concept of Betrayal Trauma. This framework is particularly relevant in understanding the profound trauma response triggered when trust is broken by an affair. The podcast explores how our coping mechanisms can be completely overwhelmed in such situations, underscoring the intense need for individuals to re-establish what is real and safe in their world. This episode is a treasure trove of insights, offering listeners not only an understanding of the psychological impact of affairs but also practical advice for those embarking on the journey of healing from an affair. It’s a resource that provides both clarity and comfort to those whose world has been turned upside down by betrayal, highlighting the possibility of recovery and the rekindling of trust in a relationship that has been deeply wounded.
If you are in the wake of an affair or other type of betrayal, we can help. Our therapists in Reno have specialized training in helping couples and individuals heal from the trauma of betrayal. Contact us at 775-235-2205 for a free consultation with one of our therapists at Emotional & Relationship Health Associates.
We highly recommend this special episode of ‘The Knowledge Project’ with Shane Parrish, a platform dedicated to unearthing profound insights and wisdom to enrich our lives. Shane conducts an exclusive interview with relationship expert Dr. Sue Johnson on building intimacy. Dr. Johnson is a renowned clinical psychologist and the primary creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). In this episode, Shane and Sue delve into the intricacies of creating, protecting, and nourishing fulfilling sexual and emotional relationships.
About Dr. Sue Johnson
A Trailblazer in Relationship Therapy
Relationship expert Dr. Sue Johnson, a distinguished figure in the world of psychology, has dedicated her career to exploring the realms of romantic relationships and attachment theory. Her pioneering work in developing Emotionally Focused Therapy has provided profound insights into the way couples interact and bond.
The Genesis of Emotionally Focused Therapy
EFT, founded by Dr. Johnson, stands out as a highly effective approach to couples therapy. It emphasizes emotional bonding and addresses patterns that can lead to distress in relationships. The therapy has a remarkable success rate and is backed by substantial research.
Core Principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy
Understanding Emotional Responsiveness
Dr. Johnson’s approach revolves around the idea that emotional responsiveness is key to a strong relationship. She explains how partners can become more attuned to each other’s emotional needs and responses.
The Role of Vulnerability
Vulnerability is a cornerstone of deep emotional connection. Dr. Johnson discusses how opening up and expressing one’s true feelings can strengthen the bond between partners.
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. Dr. Johnson offers insights into managing disagreements constructively and turning them into opportunities for growth and understanding.
Building and Sustaining Relationships
The Foundation of Trust and Security
Trust and security are the bedrocks of any lasting relationship. This segment explores how couples can build and maintain these essential elements.
Communication: The Key to Connection
Effective communication is vital in relationships. Dr. Johnson provides practical advice on how couples can improve their communication skills to enhance understanding and intimacy.
The Importance of Intimacy
Intimacy, both emotional and sexual, is crucial for a fulfilling relationship. Relationship expert, Dr. Sue Johnson delves into the ways couples can deepen their intimacy and maintain it over time.
Practical Advice for Couples and Individuals
Strategies for Nurturing Relationships
Listeners will gain valuable strategies for nurturing their relationships, including exercises and practices that can be incorporated into daily life.
Tips for Singles
Dr. Johnson also offers advice for singles on preparing for a healthy, fulfilling relationship in the future.
Overcoming Relationship Challenges
The episode covers common challenges in relationships and how to overcome them, drawing from Dr. Johnson’s extensive experience in therapy.
In this enlightening conversation with Dr. Sue Johnson, ‘The Knowledge Project’ brings forward essential insights into the art of building and sustaining fulfilling relationships. Whether you are in a relationship or single, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom on love, connection, and emotional health.
We practice Emotionally Focused Therapy as developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. Reach out for a free consultation to talk about building deeper, more meaningful relationships in your life.
Clinical Lead and EFT Therapist
I was born and raised in Florida. However, after moving out west following graduation from college, I fell in love with this area and have made Reno my home ever since. I have been licensed as a clinical social worker and practicing therapy since 2002. I am ICEEFT Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist and supervisor for clinical social work interns. My undergraduate work was completed in 1995 at Randolph-Macon College in Ashland, Virginia.
I am passionate about my work with children and their families, couples, and individuals. Emotionally Focused Therapy, EFT, has been an ideal way to bring Attachment Theory to my work with all of these clients. EFT has also been a very natural fit for me as a person. It lends to compassion, openness, non-judgment, and meaningful change. It also fits our practice mission of providing a caring and effective therapy. Finally, I love having the EFT roadmap that lets me communicate clearly with my clients about where we are in the change process.
Call 775-235-2205 to arrange a brief phone consult with me.